Family Drug Support 2024 Annual Report

26 Bereavement Services Family Drug Support was initially started by people who had lost family members to drugs. Supporting people through bereavement continues to be a priority for Family Drug Support. It is difficult to find services capable of providing appropriate support to bereaved families. Thebarton (Bereavement) Support Group This support group began as a pilot to determine whether there was sufficient interest for a permanent monthly meeting. The group is intended to support anyone who has lost someone dear to them, either directly or indirectly, due to their substance use. The first meeting was held in January 2024 and by 30 June, we had had 5 meetings. The group was initiated in response to requests on the part of several former FDS support group members who were looking for ongoing support. When a person one is supporting dies, it is no longer appropriate for a family member to continue to attend the regular support group meetings. This has for years left a gap in responsible, sustained care on FDS’ part. Those who have reached out for bereavement support appear to find non -judgmental solace and solidarity at the monthly meetings held at the FDS office. As a bona fide (AOD-) bereaved family member, Angela facilitates the group and, in doing so, also feels she gains benefit. We are developing a model as we go that is hoped will lay the foundation for an ongoing support group. Although she might have brief personal input from time to time, the meeting is peer-led and rolls gently from one topic to another, more like a conversation than a sequential meeting conducted around a table or room. At each meeting, the sharing of stories, reflections, emotions (often tears) and sometimes rage and frustration flows organically. No one person dominates the discussion, everyone is respectful and empathic. Similar rules to the regular support meetings. They already know the deal and any newcomers to FDS would be inducted appropriately. The space is staged to encourage a comfortable, peaceful ambience using couches and cushions, candles and cups of tea (which attendees make themselves). Sometimes a little music if we’re discussing, for example, funeral playlists. Tissues are always handy - and essential! Topics covered in meetings so far have included: emotional triggers; photos that throw a visceral dart; dealing with innocent, well-intended - but awkward – questions; protecting others from one’s own grief; relief at being ‘off the case’; the unmentionable release from living on the brink/expecting the worst; resentment; anger; joy and laughter in spite of everything. There is always some talk of how to move forward (still one step at a time) and, at the close of each session, each person leaves behind a warm wish for the others. As well as a desire to return the following month. The unspoken common ground, shared with the lived-experience facilitator creates a landing pad as soft as the plush rabbit each person receives at their first meeting. Judging by the number of people contacting FDS for bereavement support, this group has potential to build and expand.