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Submitted by
Name: Belinda
From: Sydney
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Comments:
Hi everyone,

My partner is in recovery at the moment from crystal meth, and although he hasn't touched meth for over a month, he is still busting on alcohol and marijuana. I know that I cannot stop him or help in any way to stop, only through support and accepting it. But I find it difficult to talk to him about it. He has a way of getting closed-off and jumps to the conclusion that I am dumping him everytime the discussion happens. Any advice?

Added: December 12, 2011

Submitted by
Name: Heidi
From: Sydney
E-mail: Contact

Comments:
Hi Sarah Stevenson

I can really relate to how you feel about your boyfriend smoking pot as I'm in a similar situation.

My husband doesn't smoke every day like he used to, actually only occasionally when he is given some by a friend he might smoke at night for a few weeks & then not have any for months, I believe that the withdrawal from it makes him moody but he can't see that.

But we had a talk recently & he made the point that he has compromised for the benefit of our relationship (cutting down) & I realised that I really appreciate that.

I've finally accepted that yes he is going to smoke occassionally & no I don't like it but he is being reasonable & it's okay. It feels like such a burden lifted!

I think focusing on the positives in the person, lots of open communication about each others feelings, and a strong willingness to negotiate and compromise, really helps.

All the best!

Added: November 29, 2011

Submitted by
Name: New Person
From: Sydney

Comments:
50 + m/d 30 years wish to share my life changing story with others. I’ve smoked dope since I was 17 years old. I recently went on an O/S trip with my wife & was faced with not being able to take my comfort weed with me, what to do? A visit to my doctor & armed no longer with my Doctor's sympathy but a bottle of sleeping tabs & my self confidence, set out O/S. As predicted nights 3 & 4 were the hardest crying like a baby & with little sleep but got thru it. 2 weeks later returning feeling like a new person, cliché I know but it’s true & I’m on so much of a high it’s like a new life, really! this is simply great. Well dust is settling & my wife is struggling to understand this person she didn’t marry & I feel like I’m in a fast car but cannot control the steering wheel, I think I’m going in the right direction though. I guess the high will die down & I’ll have to deal with the temptation & hope to maintain what I have worked so hard for.

Added: November 29, 2011

Submitted by
Name: GRAHAM
From: FDS

Comments:
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Added: November 19, 2011

Submitted by
Name: Sarah Stevenson

Comments:
Hello, i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and he smokes alot of weed. We have argued, and broken up a few times but we are back together as i love him. This time he has agreed to cut back. He now supposedly smokes once a week and only a little bit when he does. I hate weed and he knows it upsets me but continues to do it. I should be grateful he has cut back. What are other people's opinions on pot? Our relationship is great otherwise.

Added: April 3, 2011

Submitted by
Name: marni
From: south australia
E-mail: Contact

Comments:
my daughter who has just turned 16 has been using heroin for 8 months and had stopped for 4 weeks and over the last few days she has started again! I only found out she was previously using heroin 4 weeks ago, I am lost, a mess, dont know what to do and Im a mum to 2 other children in my care aged 3 and 6 years. :!cry:

Added: April 1, 2011

Submitted by
Name: kathy grech
From: terrigal central coast
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Added: March 10, 2011

Submitted by
Name: Tony Trimingham
From: Family Drug Support
E-mail: Contact

Comments:
To Bron

It must be very stressful and anxiety provoking for you to deal with nyour sons issues.
I suggest you contact our support line 1300 368 186.
We do not like to offer suggestions via this message baord but our volunteers are trained vto help you look at your options and consequences and then act in a way you can live with.

Added: January 18, 2011

Submitted by
Name: bron
From: dubbo
E-mail: Contact

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I have taken the hard road with my 28 yr old son, not enabling is so hard. I dont know what to do about my grandson. do I attempt to take him, which is my sons greatest fear, and make it worse for him?? :!cry:

Added: January 18, 2011

Submitted by
Name: Susan Landelle
From: Mooloolaba, Queensland
E-mail: Contact

Comments:
I came across this site, thanks to the suggestion by a counsellor at a Rehab, where my partner is now staying for his addictions to heroin, speed and alcohol. As soon as I saw the video about who's supporting me, I realized that maybe finally I have found a place where i can openly and safely communicate with other families in my situation. I definitely need support to continue on this long struggle, as I am not coping but don't know where to turn, or what to do with MY life. Please can someone tell me what support is available on the Sunshine Coast. I would be keen to get counselling and to attend the seminars.

Added: December 28, 2010